Wednesday, September 05, 2007


Perhaps the most misunderstood and misused word in the English language is the word Friend.  Perhaps it's a bit even overrated. There are many amongst who call all and sundry as friends, but are they truly our dear friends. I therefore wish to present this crude classification on this relationship.

Relationships are always value dependent. intangible  or otherwise.

The intensity of the relationship are like rungs on an ascending ladder that strengthen the bond as one climbs higher.

The first rung of this relationship is Stranger. Having nothing to relate to or share in the past.  They have no transactions between them.

They may sit at a table and exchange a smile and greet each other. They exchange names and numbers. They may even continue such greetings whenever they meet. They may share a meal, a seat or even a bed. The only transaction here is acknowledgement of each others presence.

The third most significant level of a relationship is when the two individuals decide to work together. They may share common ideals,  goals and pleasures. The bond intensifies directly proportional to the transaction.

This is the stage where transactions are less tangible. Individuals rely on mutual emotional support rather than material exchanges. Trust, understanding  and respect play a crucial  role in building or breaking such bonds. It usually takes years of association to form such relationships.

ഈ ബന്ധങ്ങളുടെ കോണിപ്പടി കയറുന്നതും ശ്രദ്ധിക്കണം. ഉയരം കൂടും തോറും വീഴ്ചയുടെ വേദനയും കൂടും.

അപ്പോള്‍ ഇന്നലെ കണ്ട ആണുങ്ങളേയും പെണ്ണുങ്ങളേയും ചുമ്മ ഫ്രണ്ട് ഫ്രണ്ട് എന്നു പറയരുത്. കുനിഞ്ഞ് നിന്നാല്‍ അടിച്ചുമാറ്റുന്ന ഫ്രണ്ടാണു അധികവും. ഇന്നലെ കൂടെ തിന്നും കുടിച്ചും നടക്കുന്ന ചിലരെ ഫ്രണ്ട് എന്നു വിളിച്ചാല്‍ 25ഉം 30ഉം വർഷം  കൂടെയുണ്ടായിരുന്നവരെ എന്തു വിളിക്കും?


  1. Friendship with mutual respect and integrity will thrive. Consideration for the other person and respect for his/her integrity are important factors in making it strong. Each person in the alliance should be mindful of whether his/her action infringes on the rights of the other.

  2. Dear Nishad,
    I am here at first time leaving a comment to your any posts.
    Hope your friendly "Friend" post is worthy for all the times.

    "Love All, Trust Few and Do Wrong to None."

  3. ഉദാത്തം !!!
    ഈ ചിന്തക്കു കാരണമായ സാഹചര്യങ്ങള്‍ പോലും നല്ലതായിത്തീരുന്നു.

  4. Friendship is beyond reason and reasoning.The rest is mere symbiosis.

  5. thalle de..nee kalipukal thanne ketta!

    pinne appi..eethu copy paste commnet alla..a podacst mothom kettutu athmarthamaya abhiprayamanu!


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