Wednesday, September 05, 2007


Perhaps the most misunderstood and misused and often generalised terminology in the English language is the word Friends. I say it is overrated. There are many amongst us we call everyone we meet friends, but are they truly our dear friends. I therefore wish to present this crude hypotheses regarding relationships.

Relationships are often transactional. Based on an intangible bond. The transaction could also be tangible. However sometimes it can transcend such definition of tangibility.

Relationships are rungs on an ascending ladder that take you higher and a higher as you climb higher.

The first rung of this relationship is Stranger. Having nothing to relate to or share in the past. They are total strangers. They have no transactions between them.

They sit at a table and exchange a smile and greet each other. They exchange names and numbers. They may even continue this greeting when ever they meet. They may share a meal, a seat or even a bed. The only transaction here is acknowledgement of each others presence.

The third most significant level of a relationship is when the two individuals decide to work together on something. They may share common ideals, Common goals and common pleasures. The relationship grows stronger due to the dependence on transaction.

This is the stage where transactions are less tangible. Individuals rely on the emotional support of each other. Trust and mutual respect play a vital role in building strong bonds between individuals. Usually It takes years of association between individuals to actually reach this stage.

This is the highest rung in the Relationship Ladder. Perhaps the most fundamental and basic of all relationship. The relationship now depends on reciprocal emotional attachment. Family bonds are impossible without this crucial element.

ഈ ബന്ധങ്ങളുടെ കോണിപ്പടി കയറുന്നതും ശ്രദ്ധിക്കണം. ഉയരം കൂടും തോറും വീഴ്ചയുടെ വേദനയും കൂടും.

അപ്പോള്‍ ഇന്നലെ കണ്ട ആണുങ്ങളേയും പെണ്ണുങ്ങളേയും ചുമ്മ ഫ്രണ്ട് ഫ്രണ്ട് എന്നു പറയരുത്. കുനിഞ്ഞ് നിന്നാല്‍ അടിച്ചുമാറ്റുന്ന ഫ്രണ്ടാണു അധികവും. ഇന്നലെ കൂടെ തിന്നും കുടിച്ചും നടക്കുന്ന ചിലരെ ഫ്രണ്ട് എന്നു വിളിച്ചാല്‍ 25ഉം 30ഉം വര്ഷം കൂടെയുണ്ടായിരുന്നവരെ എന്തു വിളിക്കും.


  1. Friendship with mutual respect and integrity will thrive. Consideration for the other person and respect for his/her integrity are important factors in making it strong. Each person in the alliance should be mindful of whether his/her action infringes on the rights of the other.

  2. Dear Nishad,
    I am here at first time leaving a comment to your any posts.
    Hope your friendly "Friend" post is worthy for all the times.

    "Love All, Trust Few and Do Wrong to None."

  3. ഉദാത്തം !!!
    ഈ ചിന്തക്കു കാരണമായ സാഹചര്യങ്ങള്‍ പോലും നല്ലതായിത്തീരുന്നു.

  4. Friendship is beyond reason and reasoning.The rest is mere symbiosis.

  5. thalle de..nee kalipukal thanne ketta!

    pinne appi..eethu copy paste commnet alla..a podacst mothom kettutu athmarthamaya abhiprayamanu!


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